I was speaking with a friend of mine a few weeks back and she shared with me some disturbing information. She was looking to by some undergarments for her daughter who is a young teenager. She was browsing on JcPenny’s website to where she could not believe her eyes. When she sent me the link, I was shocked as well. JcPenny was advertising underwear for young teenage girls such as “Flirtitude push up bras and lace bikini thongs.” Are you kidding me? Help me understand why would young teenage girls need push up bras with a flirty look to them? What purpose would it serve outside of the obvious? Also, why would young teenage girls need lace bikini thongs? What is the emphasis behind this sort of marketing? What is sad, is not only are they marketing it, but how young teenage girls will flock to purchase them, and possibly some adults, who think it would be cute to buy them for their daughters.
This is what our society has become. A society that sees success is only attainable when sex or sex appeal is involved. Companies use commercials with half dressed women, in an attempt to sell their product, which by the way does no service. Men are so busy looking at the woman only to forget what the commercial was really about. Music videos especially rap ones; have women parading around in clothes where part of the apparel is clearly lost in crevices. The reality shows that show more skin than clothes. Majority of the drama shows has some form of intimate scenes that are borderline soft porn, and the message that all of this portrays is that it is acceptable for women to behave in this manner. Young women are no longer focusing on keeping a reputation that points to chastity, but more showing signs that sex is possible depending on what the man can offer. Whatever happened to respect? Whatever happened to dignity? What worth is being expressed from these young girls nowadays? My goodness. I remember as a young man, you can tell if a girl was holding even if she was revealing little. I remember how exciting it was to imagine how she would look without clothes. No, my mind should not have been there, but it caused me to focus more on who the girl was based on her character and not on how much flesh was revealed. Nowadays, everything is out. No room for imagination. Young boys are able to see what these young girls have, and that is their focus. These young girls have come to the conclusion that a boy would like them based on how skimpy the outfits they are wearing and not by the content of their conversation, which in some cases, that too is in jeopardy.
In the book of 1 Peter, the Apostle was addressing women to negate the things that give weight to their character by outer means, but strengthening that of the inner. He stated “Do not let your adornment be merely outward--arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on fine apparel--rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God.” (1 Pet 3:3-4) This is so important because it speaks not only how a woman should behave via her appearance, but also what type of message is she putting out there. Would the man only be drawn to them based off of their goods, or would he be drawn to her spirit and the aura she displays?
Young girls are not being taught the way of old and have fallen into situations that their minds are not prepared for. It is our responsibility to instruct these young girls better than how they have been taught. The bible states “older women be reverent in behavior, not slanderers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things-- that they admonish the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, homemakers, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be blasphemed.” (Tit 2:3-5) Sadly, you have mature women behaving like the teenagers, and mothers being a friend to their daughters instead of being a parent. This is hurtful and it is damaging, not only to the young women now, but also to the generations that follow. A change is needed yesterday. Amen!