Wednesday, February 23, 2011

Wait on God, Or Step Out on Faith?



Heavenly Father, I bow in worship and prayer before you.  I cover myself and all of your children with the blood of Jesus Christ this morning. Open my eyes and all other eyes that will read this word this morning oh God. Show us the areas of our lives that do not please you, and give us the strength, wisdom and grace to remove any sin or weight that would prevent us from walking in close fellowship with you. We praise you and we love you oh Father, in Jesus name I pray. Amen.
                                                                                                                  Prayer by:  Faith Narcisse

Let me begin by saying this message is of my opinion.  I am writing this message based on what I feel fervently about what is stated in scripture.  It is up to the individual to pray always and seek guidance for their own walk and decision making.  Now that I have addressed the formality, let’s begin.  I think many of us are confused between waiting on God, and stepping out on faith.  Some feel that they have to pray to God and wait for an answer before making any moves, while others pray that God order their steps, as they move in a particular direction.  Is one better than the other?  When you make decisions, do you wait for God first, or do you step out on faith?  Let’s consider some scriptures and you decide which best works for you.
WAIT ON GOD
We are all familiar with Proverbs 3:5-6 which reads “Trust in the LORD with all your heart, And lean not on your own understanding; In all your ways acknowledge Him, And He shall direct your paths.”  It is pretty much self explanatory.  We are instructed not to trust in our own understanding of things.  We have a flawed way of thinking, and because of this flaw, our actions will always have an opportunity to display a flawed result.  However, if we leave the planning to God, and realize that God is able, He will be the one that will dot all “i(s)” and cross all the “t(s)”.  He will be the one who will go over things with a fine tooth comb.  He will be the one that will apply a meticulous eye to make sure the end result is flawless.  Finally, He would be the one to make sure we do not go back to the drawing board.  Do you agree?  Let’s break this down further.  The Hebrew word for understanding is “biynah” (prounced bee-naw') which has a connation of knowledge or wisdom.  In the verses prior (1 and 2) it reads “My son, do not forget my law, But let your heart keep my commands; For length of days and long life And peace they will add to you.” And verse 7 reads “Do not be wise in your own eyes; Fear the LORD and depart from evil.”  Looking at these verses indicates that some areas of our walk are complex which require assistance from God.  It is in these cases, where we dare not try to rectify them ourselves but call on the almighty and all knowing God to aid, instruct and direct us.  The apostles were healing and casting out demons alongside Jesus, but prior to ascension, he told them “Behold, I send the Promise of My Father upon you; but tarry in the city of Jerusalem until you are endued with power from on high." (Lu 24:49)  Amen!  They had to wait on God prior to leaving Jerusalem.
STEP OUT ON FAITH
I believe the best example of one stepping out on faith, is the woman who had an issue of blood.  The bible records it as so: “And suddenly, a woman who had a flow of blood for twelve years came from behind and touched the hem of His garment.  For she said to herself, "If only I may touch His garment, I shall be made well." (Matt 9:20-21)  Luke records it as so:  “Now a woman, having a flow of blood for twelve years, who had spent all her livelihood on physicians and could not be healed by any,” (Lu 8:43) This woman was tired of her ailment.  She was unable to be healed by physicians.  She heard of Jesus.  Faith comes by hearing.  She risked violation of the Law back then.  When a woman is under her menstruation, she was to be set aside until she was finished.  She did not care about the Law.  She said I can be healed just by me touching him.   She did not wait on God, she stepped out on faith.  She believed in her heart and soul that she was going to be healed and she went for it, and indeed she was healed.  The bible states “But Jesus turned around, and when He saw her He said, "Be of good cheer, daughter; your faith has made you well." And the woman was made well from that hour.”  (Matt 9:22)  Jesus did not ask, “why did you not wait on God?”  He said “be happy daughter, because the faith that you had healed you.”  The bible states that God is able to do exceedingly abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to the power that works in us. (Eph 3:20)  This emphasize that we have a power to bring forth unimaginable things according to a power that is in us.  All we have to do is tap into it.
I believe we have to wait on God.  I also believe we have to step out on faith.  Both require different levels of faith, but each is important.  To be faced with a circumstance that is beyond your control, but believe God is able to bring you out of it, requires faith.  To trust in God, knowing that if we ask anything in Jesus name, it will be given to us, requires faith.  Both are necessary depending on the issue.  We have to pray for discernment on when to fight the compulsion to act when we are supposed to let go and let God, and we have to pray for the courage to step out on faith knowing that God will carry us two more steps.  Remember, both require faith, and it is impossible to please God without it.  Amen!



23 comments:

  1. Thank you Jesus for leading me here!!! I have been praying for a specific thing and strongly feel Christ Jesus our Lord has answered me! After reading this I felt peace. I'm now ready for the journey....Thanks Again!!!!

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    1. Good morning. I am pleased that this was a blessing to you. I pray that you would share with others this blog, that they also may read something that would pertain to them. God bless you in all that you do.

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  2. If you were praying for a.word from god and he put.the words believe, watch, reigned, and he has opened a.door before.me that no.man can.shut! In this order over a.period of 3-4.months what would you.say step out on what im praying for or wait on god

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    1. Good morning,

      Thank you for visiting my blog and I pray that not only this particular topic was a blessing to you, but my others as well. As to your question, I will attempt to answer as best as I feel the Lord is leading me to answer.

      Sometime people, as stated in James 4:3 pray amiss. Be advised, that this is not a conclusion that I gather from your post, but me sharing it in a form of information. There are conditions that should be met as it pertains to prayer, and one of them is to know what we are truly asking God to action on our behalf.

      You shared that you were praying for a word, which my experience tells me that you were asking God to give you a prophetic word from the scriptures to help guide you in a particular direction as it pertains to a certain decision that has to be made. The answer could come via a Pastor that preached a sermon that speaks to your situation. If you study God’s word, you may have been led to a particular scripture, that would guide in your decision making, or as in your situation, where the Holy Spirit imparts information directly to you. The words he shared was believe, watch, reigned. What can we gather from these words?

      Believe - to have confidence in the truth, the existence, or the reliability of something, although without absolute proof

      Watch - to be alertly on the lookout, look attentively, or observe, as to see what comes, is done, or happens

      Reigned – the past tense of the period during which a sovereign occupies the throne.

      “Believe” and “watch” are action words that are used in the Christian faith and it is the part that all believers must engage in. Belief/faith is essential to our walk. John 3:16 states “For God so loved the world that He gave (God’s part) His only begotten Son, that whoever believes (our part) in Him should not perish but have everlasting life.” In Hebrews 11:6 it states “But without faith it is impossible to please Him, for he who comes to God must believe (our part) that He is, and that He is a rewarder of those who diligently seek Him.”

      “Watch” in the scriptures was mostly used in a warning, mainly to be mindful of our behavior, aware of the enemy, or look forward to the coming of the Lord. Because I am unaware of your situation, only you and God would know why this word was giving to you.

      “Reigned” is a past tense word, and Jesus Christ is alive, and continues to reign, now and forever more. Again, why this word was giving to you, I can’t accurately answer. I can assume it was possibly to remind you of the nature of who Christ is. I would only add that he is still reigning.

      What is interesting about your post is that you expressed certainty that a door was opened that no man can shut. You speak with assurance and confidence. That tells me that you have a great deal of faith. With believe, watch, and reigned, I also want to know if the word patience was given.

      In either case, it seems that waiting on God is the ideal solution, but again, there are many things missing. As stated in my conclusion of the blog:

      "I believe we have to wait on God. I also believe we have to step out on faith. Both require different levels of faith, but each is important. To be faced with a circumstance that is beyond your control, but believe God is able to bring you out of it, requires faith. To trust in God, knowing that if we ask anything in Jesus name, it will be given to us, requires faith. Both are necessary depending on the issue. We have to pray for discernment on when to fight the compulsion to act when we are supposed to let go and let God, and we have to pray for the courage to step out on faith knowing that God will carry us two more steps. Remember, both require faith, and it is impossible to please God without it. Amen!"

      I pray that I was a bit more helpful to you. I pray blessings in all that you do, and that the Lord will bestow more clarity to you.

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  3. Thank you for replying and i kept.the first message short and too the point to.see what you 1st thoughts were! Not to add. I am 22 years old and a 3rd generation in a certain line of work. Ive been praying that the.lord would guide me to were he would have me to work at! And just before i was about to leave my last job do to lack of.work i was praying ask asking god to show me were he has me to be and i kept.dreaming of my uncles buisness! And I found myself praying that god would speak to my hart and give me a word on my dreams! Because i realy feel like he is calling me there i said lord i will go here but the.work.just isnt there that my hart desires and i flet the spirit come over me and i felt the.word believe come over me! Over the next few days i kept.praying saying lord i do believe you can make the work there but how can it.just change an become what it.isnt an again the spirit came and the.word watch came over me! A few weeks.later i still while still feeling lead to go to my uncles i was just about to read my bible one eveing and
    i prayed for.another word! And i randomly opend my bible and the first word.i.seen was reigned! I read a little the.randomly flipped again and the.1st.word i.seen was reigned again. This happened about 3-4 times and i was jumping randomly around! And i lookex it.up in a dictionary and the word reigned meant to be a leader of a team! Or king or queen... so i put.it all together and i said lord im praying for.a.job and i feel as if ur.leading.me the.work just isnt there but u said to believe! i said i do but how can it be u said watch! Then u said you were going to make me leader which is a boss if.i.were.to.own.a.business! And now ruffly 2 months after all this i.was in a way scared of making the.wrong choice an goin to talk to.my uncle about this i went to.church looking for.gods help and the first thing the.preacher said in his sermon was Revelations 3: 8 I know thy works; behold, i have set before thee an open door, an no ma can shut it. So with this being said whats your thoughts! And i have yet to talk to my uncle still

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    1. Good morning,

      I thank you for your response that provides a bit more information. I understand your concerns, and I will urge you to be extremely careful in trying to interpret dreams, especially if you “feel” God is the author of them.

      Why do we work? We work so that we can pay of the necessities of life, and also for the things we want. So I am assuming you would like to make more money. Here is the challenge that I have with your prayer, and this is why I shared with you yesterday about praying amiss (James 4:3). Here is the full verse in its entirety, “Where do wars and fights come from among you? Do they not come from your desires for pleasure that war in your members? You lust and do not have. You murder and covet and cannot obtain. You fight and war. Yet you do not have because you do not ask. You ask and do not receive, because you ask amiss, that you may spend it on your pleasures.” (James 4:1-3)

      Am I calling you a war monger? No I am not. Am I calling you a murder? No I am not. Am I saying that you covet? No I am not? However, I am saying you may be expressing a bit of selfishness. Why do I say so? Ok, I asked why we work. When we work, we get paid. When we get paid, we have the money to buy the things we need, and also the things we want. I am assuming that the work you have now, can only pay for the things you need, but not the things you want. So you desire to look for a job that can pay for both. I am not sure if the third generation line of work and your uncle is the same or not. However, you are asking God to send you somewhere else. What about praying to God, that the job you are currently at, that he makes it very successful for the owner? If that job is successful, would not the success trickle down to you? Don’t you think the owner would want to be successful? Don’t you think the owner need prayer?

      So if you believe in God, and believe He is a just God, do you think he would like that you prayed for the owner of the current job, or that He only satisfies what you want, in essence praying amiss? You said you went to church. How about asking the pastor to sit down with you and share with him all that you shared with me. Whatever he tells you, you know pray to God for clarity, and if your heart is in the right place, clarity will come. I also suggest that you pray not only for your success, but your family’s success, and for other’s success, and I believe God will make things clearer to you. Amen!

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  4. Hello-

    I googled the phrase "step out on faith" and this was the website that I was brought to and I am happy that I read it. I have been offered a job opportunity that I would love to take but I would have to take a step back in salary and title. The step back in salary would result in a $10,000 pay decrease. I recently had a son last year and I have been married for 5 years. My husband and I came up with a figure that would work for us when I first interviewed for this position. The offering salary is much lower. When I told my husband he stated that that wouldn't work out family taking into consideration our son and other financial obligations. I continue to ask myself why would God open this door, just for it to be closed? Is he testing his faith?

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  5. Good morning sister,

    Let me begin by thanking you for visiting my site.
    In reading your post I can see how the decision you make can be a challenging one. If I may, I would like to break down your post so I can either show you a better picture, or if you were to respond, I can ascertain a total understanding of your situation.

    Job Offer
    When I read that you were offered a job, but will have to take a step back in salary and in title, I assumed that you are already working, but is seeking an alternate position because of possibly no longer being happy at your current position. From a secular perspective, one can say if a job no longer makes you happy, it may be best in the long run to seek one that does. However, from a spiritual perspective, because I do not know you personally, it is difficult to determine if you should stay or go. But there are things in your post that sort of gives me enough information where I can ask you to consider certain things.
    If you have been working for some time now, it is safe to assume, that the salary you are making plus with your husband's salary is enough to accomodate your current lifestyle. So one thing I would ask you to consider is it wise to decrease your salary by $10,000 knowing that it can affect your current bills, financial goals, etc?
    Another area I want you to consider is the agreement that you and your husband came up with together. There was a certain figure that was discussed between you and your husband. I do not believe a decrease of $10,000 was part of that discussion. Would it be wise to make an agreement with your husband, only to go back on it?
    Finally the most important question I would like to pose to you, is how certain you know it is of God? Let's look at a few scriptures, and as it pertain to you and your husband, I am assuming that both of you are "practicing" children of God.

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  6. Please consider these 3 scriptures, and they are guaged towards you, since you it is your possible actions that are in question.
    "But I want you to know that the head of every man is Christ, the head of woman is man, and the head of Christ is God." - 1Co 11:3
    There is an order of creation that God has ordained as it pertains to mankind and their relationship with Him. The order and relationship between man and women, specifically between husband and wife, the husband has been ordained the position of headship and his wife is the husband's help meet. This in no way diminish you as a person, but sets you in a divine ordained order as being a help to your husband, but he is the leader of your household.

    "Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body.
    Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything." Eph 5:22-24

    Here the Apostle Paul, by way of the Holy Spirit gives us an example of how a husband and wife relationship are to behave. In the verses I used, this is an example of how a wife should look upon and treat her husband.
    "Wives, likewise, be submissive to your own husbands, that even if some do not obey the word, they, without a word, may be won by the conduct of their wives, when they observe your chaste conduct accompanied by fear." - 1Pe 3:1-2
    In this particular set of verses, the Apostle Peter, demonstates a scenario, in where a husband may not be where he should be in regards to how God ordained the husband's position in the marriage, yet that does not serve as an indication for the wife to negate what she is called and ordained to behave in the marriage.
    I share these scriptures with you sister, because your decision may cause you to not only go against the agreement that you and your husband stipulated, but also reject your husband's council regarding what he think is right for the home. God is not the author nor motivator behind such a decision.
    In your post, you stated that there is an opportunity that "you" would "love" to take. I believe that flesh is involved and this is where the enemey is most effectual.
    The bible tells us "Walk in the Spirit, and you shall not fulfill the lust of the flesh. For the flesh lusts against the Spirit, and the Spirit against the flesh; and these are contrary to one another, so that you do not do the things that you wish." Ga 5:16-17
    When we consider what the flesh wants, we are in essence considering what the enemy wants. The Apostle Paul, via the Holy Spirit was warning us on how we must at all times remain spiritual. By this, we are encouraging a better outcome in all that we do. The scripture says that the flesh and the Spirit are opposite of each other. If you were to act on that position by taking it, and based off of the information I have read, I believe you will in fact be doing what is contrary to God. In verses 19-21 it shows evidence of what takes place in the flesh. Verse says "But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness" Ask yourself, if you take this position, will your house be full of joy? Will you and your husband be at peace?
    In the book of Matthew chapter 4, the devil tempted Jesus by promising him the world if Jesus will bow to him (Matt 4:8-9). I share this with you, by showing you that the devil can also present things that can "appear" to be a blessing, but in reality it is not.
    Sister, there are many things that are not clear, but based off what you shared with me, I think it is wise to pray about it some more, speak with your husband so he can have an opportunity to clearly show his position, and finally ask God for clarity.
    What I always tell people, if it is of God, there will be no confusion, and all concerns will be addressed. God bless you sister, and I pray blessings on you and your family.

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  7. Ok, so now my question is when you wait on God how am I supposed to know when answers? How do I know it's God telling me to move? How do you hear God? How do I know when to trust an instinct?

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    1. Good evening,

      When you say "ok, so now my question is....." are you saying that you are someone I have already answered? If that is so, then you are indicating that my answers were not suitable to you.

      If you are someone knew, I apologize, for you threw me off with your question which indicates that I have answered you already.

      There are examples that people have posted and where I have responded. To ensure there is no redundancy, please view the above posts and replies. Also please look over the following conclusion, but in truth, the questions you asked, if you are truly a person of Christian faith, and are truly and sincerely seeking answers, then every single word on this page (post, responses, and replies) can be used as a guide. Be blessed.

      "I believe we have to wait on God. I also believe we have to step out on faith. Both require different levels of faith, but each is important. To be faced with a circumstance that is beyond your control, but believe God is able to bring you out of it, requires faith. To trust in God, knowing that if we ask anything in Jesus name, it will be given to us, requires faith. Both are necessary depending on the issue. We have to pray for discernment on when to fight the compulsion to act when we are supposed to let go and let God, and we have to pray for the courage to step out on faith knowing that God will carry us two more steps. Remember, both require faith, and it is impossible to please God without it. Amen!"

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  8. Hello my name is Christina. I pray this blog is still open. Thank you for posting this beautiful message. This is exactly the thoughts I have been struggling with. I'm gonna try to explain my situation to you in the most brief terms to respect your time. I am a single woman and have been praying for God to send me a husband. Recently, a guy has shown up and we have talked to each other two to three times a day. He has expressed on several times that he likes me and he enjoys talking to me. He was married for 9 years and is now recently divorced for about 18 months. He spoke often of finding it hard to trust again because of how bad his marriage ended. However, after talking about 2 and half weeks...he insisted that I meet his parents because he respects their opinions. I was hesitate at first to meet his parents and I believed that he was truly offended by my stalling but he actually never admitted it to me. He even went so far to put his mother on the phone with me without my permission. I talked to her and we had a great conversation. He told me that his mother really liked me. So the next two days we talked and agreed I would come to meet his parents and his daughters. Everything went well after the meeting. His parents are from out of town and would be leaving soon. He decided he should spend the last day with his parents out of respect for them. He made plans to see me in two days after spending a trip with his daughters while on vacation. Now, he has always been completely honest with me. Here's where it changes. In short, I rushed to judgement the next day and made a mess of the relationship. After hearing me acting irrational, he concluded that I was crazy and he changed his phone number immediately. Since that day, I have had so much regret for my actions. There was no good reason for my actions that day but that I allowed the enemy to lie to me. I sent him a version of an apology that I didn't seek for guidance from God before writing it. I received confirmation that he has read it. My spirit has been dampened because I had worked so hard for him to see Christ through me and it had been all thrown away in his view because of a few moments of terrible behavior.
    Since that day I have been praying and fasting for the opportunity to make it right with him again. I have also prayed for other friends and community members during my fasting time. Those prayers have been answered. Praise God! However, I haven't received a clear answer on my situation. I have a thought in my head of going to him and asking for forgiveness in person since I have been praying and fasting. I will not be fearful of rejection because God's word state he hasn't given us the spirit of fear. My prayers were putting the situation in God's hands because I know nothing is impossible for him to fix. I know things would be different with this guy if I had not made that irrational decision. I take full responsibility for what I did. My thoughts are do I wait for God to send him back to me (by calling or messaging me first), or do I step out on faith by going to him and let God give me the words that will speak to his heart for forgiveness.

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  9. Hello my name is Christina. I pray this blog is still open. Thank you for posting this beautiful message. This is exactly the thoughts I have been struggling with. I'm gonna try to explain my situation to you in the most brief terms to respect your time. I am a single woman and have been praying for God to send me a husband. Recently, a guy has shown up and we have talked to each other two to three times a day. He has expressed on several times that he likes me and he enjoys talking to me. He was married for 9 years and is now recently divorced for about 18 months. He spoke often of finding it hard to trust again because of how bad his marriage ended. However, after talking about 2 and half weeks...he insisted that I meet his parents because he respects their opinions. I was hesitate at first to meet his parents and I believed that he was truly offended by my stalling but he actually never admitted it to me. He even went so far to put his mother on the phone with me without my permission. I talked to her and we had a great conversation. He told me that his mother really liked me. So the next two days we talked and agreed I would come to meet his parents and his daughters. Everything went well after the meeting. His parents are from out of town and would be leaving soon. He decided he should spend the last day with his parents out of respect for them. He made plans to see me in two days after spending a trip with his daughters while on vacation. Now, he has always been completely honest with me. Here's where it changes. In short, I rushed to judgement the next day and made a mess of the relationship. After hearing me acting irrational, he concluded that I was crazy and he changed his phone number immediately. Since that day, I have had so much regret for my actions. There was no good reason for my actions that day but that I allowed the enemy to lie to me. I sent him a version of an apology that I didn't seek for guidance from God before writing it. I received confirmation that he has read it. My spirit has been dampened because I had worked so hard for him to see Christ through me and it had been all thrown away in his view because of a few moments of terrible behavior.
    Since that day I have been praying and fasting for the opportunity to make it right with him again. I have also prayed for other friends and community members during my fasting time. Those prayers have been answered. Praise God! However, I haven't received a clear answer on my situation. I have a thought in my head of going to him and asking for forgiveness in person since I have been praying and fasting. I will not be fearful of rejection because God's word state he hasn't given us the spirit of fear. My prayers were putting the situation in God's hands because I know nothing is impossible for him to fix. I know things would be different with this guy if I had not made that irrational decision. I take full responsibility for what I did. My thoughts are do I wait for God to send him back to me (by calling or messaging me first), or do I step out on faith by going to him and let God give me the words that will speak to his heart for forgiveness.

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  10. Hello Christina. Thank you for taking the time to read my blog. The one you have responded to, is by far the most commented on. As I shared in that blog, it is of an opinion, but I used the word of God to support it. It is in that same opinion, and using the word of God to where I will respond to your comment and question.

    When it comes to the matters of the heart, I try my best to be as sensitive as possible. At the same time, I make sure to be direct in love so that nothing is misconstrued. When dealing with single men and women, the biggest challenge they face as it pertains to meeting someone is patience. God did not create us to be alone, and because sin has entered the world, it has magnified our emotions and desires to be loved and in the same sense give love. Of course this must be done according to God's word. There are many elements in your comment that are missing, to where I can not have a complete picture of the whole situation. I understand you wanted to be brief, and the blog was not intended to be used as a source for advice, but for consideration. You mentioned that you were single. I am not sure if you were married before and how it ended, or if you've had previous relationships and how they ended. This would have shed light on areas that may need patience on your part before moving forward.

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  11. Continuation from above
    You also mentioned that the gentlemen who was interested in you was married before. I am not sure if he is a true child of God or not. I am not sure if he was married in a church or at a court house. These things are relevant for if he is a child of God, and he indeed was married in a church, it is difficult for me to understand why God would create a scenario of the gentlemen to meet you instead of fixing the covenant that was entered into with him and his wife, especially when there is children involved. I am not sure 18 months is a long enough period to truly say the relationship is over. Again Christina, there are elements missing. I do not know if the wife wanted to stay in the marriage and the gentlemen is the one not willing to work at it, but what is for sure, is God do not approve of divorce, and in most situations, regarding Christian couples, it is one or both who are not willing to work it out.

    As you can see, it is challenging for me to truly give a detailed opinion when many details are missing. However, with what you have provided, I can say this. I believe in your situation, waiting on God to provide more clarity may be necessary. You mentioned that "he spoke often of finding it hard to trust again because of how bad his marriage ended." That is an indicator to truly find out how his marriage ended, and how he perceived it. Because if he perceived it one way, your actions or inaction may be perceived by him as being the same as his previous wife. The thing that stood out to me the most is when "He made plans to see me in two days after spending a trip with his daughters while on vacation." I am not sure how you rushed to judgement or what was done to describe it as being irrational, but if he concluded that you were crazy and changed his number immediately, there must have been a dramatic response from you.

    We all are flawed beings and it is only through God's grace where we can have the ability to overcome our flaws. I think there may have been some lack of understanding on his part, for you seem to like him a lot and what ever he said or done, did not meet your expectations, and your response was the result of it. I also believe there may have been lack of understanding on your part in rushing to judgement especially if he had planned to take his girls on vacation. I am not sure what the response was, but if he perceived anything as being a disrespect to him as a man and to his girls, it would really take some time to overcome that on his part.

    If you sent an email apologizing and asked for forgiveness then it must remain there. In the meantime, seek God through Jesus Christ to help you understand areas that you may have not addressed that may have been a problem for you in the past. In my opinion, if it is the will of God, you will hear from him again. I pray that God will bring you peace regardless to what lies ahead. Thank you again for the reading and the comment.

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    1. Oh my goodness! Praise God for this still being open. Thank you for replying. Looking at the date of the last response, I was concerned this blog wasn't active anymore. If you don't mind, I would like to supply more of the information you were inquiring about.

      About my status: I have never been married and I am 39 years old. I have had previous relationships, of course. The last serious relationship I was in lasted for 6 years. It ended because the guy finally told me he was not trying to get married. So I ended it because I felt I was being strung along. The guy had never been married, either. During my fasting and praying, I have received the truth that I can have a controlling spirit. I received that truth, and I have decided to work on it. I do have one 14 year old son. These past 3 months I have been approached more by men then compared to the past 6 years altogether.

      I feel in my spirit something is happening in my life right now and I can't figure out the meaning. I feel there is a deep meaning behind all of this. The first guy I met at the beginning of the 3 months ago was married and the second guy was in a live in situation with a woman. I knew immediately that those guys were not sent from God. :) The third guy was matched with me from my best friend and her brother. I thought he could have been the one. He is a believer and he had been married before as well. He had been divorced for several years and his last child had recently graduated from high school. Another thing that made him stand out was because he was an AU basketball coach and recently my son had developed a passion for basketball. During this same time, I was seeking someone to help me make basketball decisions for his future. However, after we talked for about 3 weeks, a woman who he had dated 3 months prior stated she was pregnant with his child now. So the guy decided he need to be there for his expectant child.

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    2. I hope I provided the missing elements you needed. Because of his trust issues and the holy spirit working in me is why I asked about stepping out on faith to clean my slate with him. I did not tell him everything about me that would have humanized my character more in his eyes. It had been laying on my heart since repenting of my sin and letting God work in me to see clearly what B.R.'s perspective was of me at the time of my irrational behavior. I read somewhere "When we purpose in our hearts to seek forgiveness we wronged, God is working on the heart of the other person as well. God will soften the heart of the hearer we have wronged". The conviction of my actions and the new understanding that the holy spirt has laid in my heart is what is pressing me to apologize sincerely from my heart. When I was trying to seek God and hear his word: I read in the bible about GO to your brother to seek reconciliation or give restitutions...... Please excuse the paraphrasing. It's not so much with what happens after the apology or trying to have a relationship with him thereafter. However, I do care for him and I believe he had a good heart but right now its more of the conviction that I'm feeling for my mistake. Its the wronged that I caused to his feelings to him on that day while he was attempting to enjoy time with his daughters whom he had been missing so much is what is burning inside me. He said the only regret he has from his divorce is not being able to be with his daughters every night. He miss picking them up from school or checking on them at night during bedtime. I just feel completely remorseful about my behavior now and I completely agree there was a BIG lack of misunderstanding on both of our parts on that day. My pastor advised me he believes something at my job is what caused me in the first place to act irrational with him. He explained that a negative spirit I had just encountered at my job earlier that day jumped into my spirit and caused me to make the bad choice I made that day. I hoped I provided to you the missing elements. I can't wait to hear from you again. God bless you for your counseling. :)

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  12. You are truly welcome. It is very important that I revisit a portion of my previous response. "As I shared in that blog, it is of an opinion, but I used the word of God to support it. It is in that same opinion, and using the word of God to where I will respond to your comment and question." And, "the blog was not intended to be used as a source for advice, but for consideration."

    With that said, thank you for providing more elements, however I am still firm in my opinion. I believe you have shared that you apologized via an email. I am not sure if it is possible for you to apologize to him over the phone or via in person, but if your apology is sincere, then there should not be any more feelings of remorse unless the feeling is tied to receiving an answer of forgiveness from the gentlemen. Once we believe we have wronged someone, and we apologize and ask for forgiveness, we cannot and should not dictate how and when the person who was wronged should respond. That is why I believe receiving clarity from God is necessary in this situation. As of now, you have a strong opinion on this matter, I shared my opinion, and I believe your pastor shared a possible cause of what set things in motion. At this time now, the only counsel you should receive, is from the Holy Spirit.

    Finally, consider this: "when He, the Spirit of truth, has come, He will guide you into all truth; for He will not speak on His own authority, but whatever He hears He will speak; and He will tell you things to come." - Joh 16:13
    Jesus shared this with His apostles prior to His ascension. The Holy Spirit is now with all believers and indeed the Holy Spirit will guide us in the best direction for us. It is up to us to adhere. God bless you and take care.

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  13. Thank you for your opinion and I will take it in consideration. :) I really appreciate the scriptures. I will study them. God bless you as well.

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